Children and Failure
Then children were brought to Him so He might put His hands on them and pray. But the disciples rebuked them. Then Jesus said, “Leave the children alone, and don’t try to keep them from coming to Me, because the kingdom of heaven is made up of people like this. After putting His hands on them He went on from there.
Matthew 19:14-15 (HCSB)
I want to catch my children before they fail or suffer consequences. I can see things they don’t because I have a different perspective or because I have been there, done that. I have five; ages 13, 14, 16, 18 and 24. They are all in a stage of growing and trying to figure it out. Aren’t we all?
I pray for my children, asking Jesus for his hand on them, and then I get in the way to try and head off everything I see coming down the road. When this happens, I prohibit them from seeking the One who loves them more than I do. I want Jesus to bless them, but I keep them from going to him because I intervene. Instead, I make them look to me and I prolong what he has intended for them to achieve in the circumstance.
When I am in the way I can cause my kids to see circumstances as a misfortune, or only a bad situation they have brought on themselves, instead of an opportunity. His hand is on their lives but I have to believe it and get out of the way so they can experience him for themselves. Instead of telling them what, or what not, to do I should ask questions like
Why is this an opportunity to grow in God?
What do you think God wants to teach you about who he is?
What does God want you to learn about yourself?
What will matter most, about this, when you are in heaven with him?
If they grow in the Truth of God’s love nothing is a waste or a failure.
I am trying to change my family’s perspective. Changing an outlook can take a while after being focused on your own for so long.
Jesus has rescued me from some pretty dire situations and I think it is necessary for us to do the same from time to time. But most of the time, it’s in “The Hard” that the soul work is accomplished.
Jesus knows what’s best because He has traveled the road ahead and He sees our lives from the other side. The Savior knows our potential because he created us.
I am learning to hold on and let go. It’s new territory – this opening of a grip. It takes faith and trust. And even though I have headed my children off in the past, just like those disciples (I am a disciple too), Jesus comforts me that He still has blessed them. It takes grace to bless the motives of a mother’s heart, even when she fails miserably.
Do you struggle with seeing “The Hard” as opportunities to see Jesus for who he really is? If so, ask yourself the questions above or come up with your own. I have created a form for my family. I am crazy organized like that. When we find ourselves in difficult times it helps us to seek Jesus and the opportunity ordained for growth.
Praying you Live Like You Know,