One Woman at a Time
Philippians 4:17 (HCSB)
Are there times in your life when you feel taken advantage of? The family takes your care for granted, friends seize that inch and stretch it to a yard, and others assume you have luxury-time for helping with needs in every shape and size? When this happens, life can start to look like a one way street with feelings of being slighted by ungratefulness and assumptions that others only want what you have to offer. If not careful, a poisonous view of “them versus me” seeps in.
This Pharisee-view breeds a hard heart and a cold mind. I know because I’ve been there.
Through Scripture, God shows me I am no different from those I accuse. Often, when others offer to help me, I only think about how I will benefit.
God tells me to desire the blessing for the giver, not the giver’s blessing to me. It is right to be grateful for other’s help but this should not be my first concern.
When my husband provides, I should desire the blessing He will receive from God for his dedication and perseverance before I think of the comfort it will bring to me.
When my friend extends her help, I should first celebrate her reward in heaven before I think of how she will lighten my load.
When my family comes along side me, in all my messiness, I am to be grateful for what they will inherit in the Kingdom prior to focusing on needs that will be satisfied in me.
Women are givers; designed by God with hearts to care for others. We extend our hands and our feet and find it hard to say, “No” when needs arise. It is easy for us to fall in the “us versus them” attitude when we turn our eyes on self.
We must guard ourselves by asking, “What, of what I see in others, is in me?”
If you are feeling taken advantage of, look inside your own heart and ask Jesus if you receive blessings with an attitude of only celebrating “self-benefit”. If you do, start rejoicing in the fruit God will abound to your giver, first, and see how in the receiving, you can put others first.
Remember a recent time when someone blessed you.
How does rejoicing in God’s blessings to the giver, change how you receive someone’s help?
Jesus, help me to always put others first, especially when they are blessing me with their time, gifts, and talents. Give me a heart to see my own sin before I point it out in someone else’s life. I ask for Your forgiveness and equipping in this area of my life.
Further Reading – Hebrews 6:10
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I pray you Live Like You Know …where you are going,
Strength to strength,